How Goth can be a positive thing?

First of all, I will begin this post by telling everyone that I am not a “real” Goth, because I don’t really like the music and according to many Goths I talked to, music and the scene are mainly what make you Goth. That being said, I could be considered as a “Nu goth“, someone who dresses  gothy but doesn’t listen to the music.


Yes I like corsets, lace, velvet, black velvet, burgundy velvet, spikes, skulls; I also like the comic character “Nemi”, horror films and Halloween. I know Evanescence and Within Temptation are not Goth bands but metal bands, I read enough of The Goth Bible to know that Christian Death, Siousie Sioux, Bauhaus…are Goth bands, but I don’t like their music and I won’t force myself into listening to it to feel “Goth enough”.


That being said, let’s go back to my title: How Goth can be a positive thing? Indeed, too many people believe that Goth subculture is about self harm, depression and suicide, Death worship or worse, Devil worship.

I’ve been through hell, really: I’ve been suffering from depression, anxiety, social phobia, bullying, possibly borderline personality disorder, spent time in a psych ward, tried to kill myself several times.

But this has NEVER had to do with my involvement in the Goth subculture; instead, wearing dark clothes with skulls and spikes helped me express my pain in another way than self-harming. Watching horror movies was a way to increase adrenaline without putting myself in danger. Nemi is very funny, in a sarcastic way, I had a good time reading the comic books. Halloween fills me with joy and energy, I decorate the house, dress up to welcome the trick or treaters at my door…

When I started recovering after being stuck in a wheelchair due to a 2-storey fall, the first thing I wanted to do was to put on my black and red Queen of Darkness long skirt, a black velvet top and get my streaks dyed red again.

I HAVE NEVER worshipped any kind of evil entity; I don’t belong to a religion, but I believe in the Divine, a universal energy of Light and unconditional love.

To me, Goth is a way to express my darker creativity without harming myself or anyone else.


OOTD + news

DSCN8647Today I have another appointement with Mr Handsome. I’m getting less excited/edgy/nervous/crazy with time. It’s becoming more of a deep friendly feeling for him within my heart and less of a romantic and sexual attraction. It’s safer this way. I’m writing my 3rd book (in French) although my 2 first ones were never published. I guess it is more like a therapy than a way of becoming a promising, well-known writer.

Clothing tags collection

Many people all over the World collect various things: epiphany cakes’ charms, figurines, cards, stamps, paintings…

I am not really a collector person, I don’t spend outrageous amount of money on a collection but I do like to keep every pretty clothing tag that I get from buying new clothes or that my mum gives me when she buys a piece of clothes for her. Most are made of paper, but some are really artistic, like that mini vinyl-like plastic tag or that fabric white&pink lacey gothic lolita & punk tag.

I keep them in photo albums.


Gothic and/or Romantic giveaway

Hello there!

I thought I’d launched another giveaway about these two themes:

  • Goth
  • Romantic

The rule is simple: Bloggers who have a blog either about Goth fashion and/or goth art & craft or a blog about lace, frills, bows, lolita, romantic fashion can apply.

Just enter your blog address in the comment area of this post and write either “Goth” to receive the Goth package or “Romantic” to receive the romantic package. You can also ask a mix of the two (but you won’t get ALL of the Goth AND romantic package, hehe).

Don’t expect anything grandiose. I will put as much as I can in the parcel as regard to the limitation of the shipping fees (which I will pay for of course).

Alternative fashion and I

I discovered Japanese alternative fashion when I was around 16. I wasn’t interested at the time and liked to dress kinda grungeish. But when I reached the age of 19, the year I entered college, strangely I fell in love with the kawaii style of the  Japanese girls from the book FRUITS. I went to college dressed in colourful outfits with stripes, skulls, fishnet, spikes and everything crazy from the Harajuku style. I had a “Nu goth” phase which is not really over at 30+ now. Then I dived into each and every alt. clothing style: it is dizzily! From punk to goth, from kawaii to decora, from emo to scene, including lolita there is so much to learn and enjoy! It’s a richness I never get tired of, I watch every show about it, whether it mocks the fashion(s) or embraces it.

And the best thing is…I’m sure there is more to come!


OOTD Pastel goth

Days have been pretty good or at least not bad. I ate out with family, did some thriftshopping, viewed interesting videos on Youtube, interacted with my webfamily and even managed to draw some of the web-personalities/friends I am folowing. I must owe this to the Internet that it enables to have the shadow of a social life instead of no social life at all. And sometimes @friends can be like real friends and real comfort.


I bought these high knees from a seller on (a French website like Etsy) and they are really nice. They are handmade, good quality, hyper high and not too tight. I’ve been dressing gothy for so many days now. It makes me feel good. It doesn’t reflect any negative thoughts or feelings, on the contrary!

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